If you have committed yourself to being in healthy relation with someone (a family member, lover, and/or friend) and that person hurts you or does something that doesn’t feel good, practice slowing down. Notice the feeling. Name it to yourself before sharing it. Name all the ways you rather be feeling. How can you feel the ways you want to feel in this situation? Is the feeling you want something you can achieve on your own? Do you need help? What and/or who needs to shift? Ask for it. Give this person with whom you share love the opportunity to help you feel something different, something better. Get there together.